Most communication doesn't come from words, but rather the subtleties of body language. Here's how to listen with more than your ears.
1. Eye Contact
Normal: Happy, engaged people maintain good eye contact throughout the majority of the conversation, although the occasional break is perfectly normal.
Not: A lack of eye contact implies everything else is more interesting than you. Deceptive people may avoid looking at you…or overdo it so much they end up staring.
2. Attention
al: When people really want to talk to you, very few things will distract them from you. They might be momentarily torn away, but 99 percent of their focus is on you.
Not: Uncomfortable or nervous people find distractions to occupy their mind or ease stress. They may pick lint off their clothes, play with their hair, fidget, or check their phone.
3. Facial Expressions
Normal: When people tell a story, their features should match the emotions they are describing, collectively giving off the signal of a genuine laugh, smile, or gasp.
Not: People who aren't interested in you may seem overly polite and fake: Their smile won't engage their eyes. Liars may be dramatic by smiling or laughing at odd times.
4. Posture
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How to Decode Body Language
Most communication doesn't come from words, but rather the subtleties of body language. Here's how to listen with more than your ears.
1. Eye Contact
Normal: Happy, engaged people maintain good eye contact throughout the majority of the conversation, although the occasional break is perfectly normal.
Not: A lack of eye contact implies everything else is more interesting than you. Deceptive people may avoid looking at you…or overdo it so much they end up staring.
2. Attention
Normal: When people really want to talk to you, very few things will distract them from you. They might be momentarily torn away, but 99 percent of their focus is on you.
Not: Uncomfortable or nervous people find distractions to occupy their mind or ease stress. They may pick lint off their clothes, play with their hair, fidget, or check their phone.
3. Facial Expressions
Normal: When people tell a story, their features should match the emotions they are describing, collectively giving off the signal of a genuine laugh, smile, or gasp.
Not: People who aren't interested in you may seem overly polite and fake: Their smile won't engage their eyes. Liars may be dramatic by smiling or laughing at odd times.
4. Posture
Normal: When people are truly engaged in a conversation with you, they will sit upright, face you directly, and lean in from time to time to close the gap between you.
Not: People who slouch, lean back, or turn to one side may be bored or trying to avoid the topic. Crossing of arms or legs sends a similar signal. It's a way of closing oneself off or creating a barrier.
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